Wednesday, October 12, 2022

un PARENTING - Sharing Awkward Truths with Curious Kids By Reema Ahmad - Book Review



Name of the Book: un PARENTING- Sharing Awkward Truths with Curious Kids

Author of the Book:  Reema Ahmad

Genre: Non-Fiction

ABOUT THE BOOK

UnParenting is a great answer to every time you’ve ever wondered, “Is it just me, or is being a parent is actually challenging in today's time? Reema winningly leads us through the world of modern parenthood with both depth and breadth, in a voice that is insightful, relatable, and genuinely searching. Structuring her book, author weaves in her own experiences, her learnings and the story of people known to her, who have experienced difficult parenting and highlights what's changed and what hasn't to great effect. Reema split through many misconceptions of parenting with a great honesty. In her book, she has challenged the present notion of parenting competencies and hold on to a notion that parenting is not just about taking care of the child but being aware that we are bringing life on this earth and not just any commodity. 

By sharing her own examples, she has touched upon many issues which every parent by default faces in their lives while dealing with their children but are tend to keep under the hat for reasons only known to them, be it sex, consent, sexual abuse, trauma, divorce, bullying or body acceptance. Her tips on how to treat a child as an equal, being honest and speak your mind, empathizing with differences are very insightful and can help many parents. 

The book is very high at it's emotional quotient , that will navigate you through the murky world of emotions, self awareness, empathy and being grateful. 

MY TAKE ON THE BOOK

Unparenting doesn't try to preach anything but will sail you through the parenting journey. I liked the humor with which author has dealt most of the critical issues as it makes it even more engaging and refreshing. It is not easy for anyone to open up about their personal life, but author has done it with great sensitivity which is admirable. This book can act as a great companion as it will help you to understand yourself better and will clarify fallacy you were living with. One of  the quote by Jennnifer Jhonston which author has reiterate has shaken me to the core,

"The way I See the world, we are constantly at risk from the people we love the most. They, after all, are the only people who can do us serious damage, a damage that lasts forever." scary but the real truth of life.

The author brings a self-aware resistance to dogma that’s refreshing and reasonable. She seems to want to help our children blossom into their best, most authentic selves without totally fraying our nerves in the process.

So if you are struggling to answer some of the most awkward questions, its time to Unparent with Reema.

BLURB

Through her own awkward journey as a confused single parent, Reema Ahmad explores what it means to explore newer ways of bringing up children-ways that nurture their sense of innocence and curiosity while giving them the freedom to choose their own truths. Reema invites you to hop along as she and her son, Imaad, learn to laugh and make up stories about why penises shape-shift, the mysteries of pubic hair, the magic of adolescent crushes and the confounding maze of dating and sex. Join them as they explore these mysteries and other serious topics like abuse, adult relationships, divorce and dying-issues that adults often forget to wonder at and seldom question.

More than anything else, 
Unparenting is a vibrant, whacky testimony to a parent-child relationship where the child leads and the parent follows. Written in the form of deeply personal, engaging and often humorous essays, the book is a powerful reminder of what it feels like to be lost and misunderstood as a child, and how important it is to challenge what we think we know as parents.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Reema Ahmad is a neurolinguistic programming-based life coach. She is also a mental space psychologist and she works in the area of healing from trauma, abuse, violence and relationship issues.

Reema co-edited an anthology of women's work called Of Dry Tongues and Brave Hearts with Semeen Ali. It was published by Red River Press in 2022. She is a poet and has also written articles for online publications like Scroll, Vice, Daily O and Live Mint. She is also a two-time TEDx and Josh Talks speaker.

Reema began her career as a child sexual abuse awareness educator and went on to specialize as a sexuality educator. She then co-founded Candidly, a forum to explore issues of gender, sexuality and media with her longtime friend Amita Malhotra in 2017.
Reema graduated from Lady Sri Ram College, Delhi University. Her schooling and early years were spent in Agra where she now lives with her parents, her son, two dogs and three cats.

BOOK DETAILS

Format: Paperback / Kindle Edition
Price: 277 INR /  239.40 INR
Pages: 288
Publication: Penguin eBury Press
Availability: Amazon


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